Conflict: Your coworker is making sexually oriented statements to you or in your presence. You are good friends and you wouldn’t really call this sexual harassment; nevertheless these remarks make you feel uncomfortable. Resolve the conflict.
Script
Carlos: And then I told her that she could spend the night at my place anytime!
*Carlos high fives a couple of his coworkers*
Kim: Hi everyone,who are you guys talking about?
Carlos & Coworks: Hey Kim, we are good how about you, we just listening to Carlos talking about his amazing night.
Kim: Really what happen to you last night Carlos I want to know.
Carlos: I’m just talking about you beautiful and the night we had.
Kim: What? Sorry if my memory is a bit fuzzy but I don’t remember anything like that.
Carlos: Its okay if you don’t remember babe that’s why you got me for.
Kim: Carlos, can I talk to you privately?
*Coworkers make “oooo” noise as you and Carlos makes your way to a secluded corner.*
Carlos: What’s up beautiful?
Kim: Why are you telling everyone we spend the night together when you know we didn’t do that at all?
Carlos: Why wouldn’t I tell everyone I’m spending time with the most beautiful girl ever? Anybody here would love to spend a night with your beautiful ass.
Kim: We are only friends Carlos. To be completely honest, I feel very uncomfortable when you talk to your coworkers like I’m yours.
Carlos: Whats the issue with being called beautiful or gorgeous? Some girls are so hard to please.
Kim: Please? I thought this was funny at first because we’re friends but I think you’re taking it too far.
Carlos: I really don’t care Kim I told all of our coworks I spend the night with your baddest girl here so just go with it.
Kim: I understand you’re trying to flatter me saying I always have a nice body, that I have a nice little waist with a butt , that you like my breast and you want to spend a night with me but there are other ways to get someone’s attention. This is not me trying to sound unappreciative but it went to far.
Carlos: Why are you complaining about this now?
Kim: Im complaining about this now because you may not be aware that you’re sexually harassing me and I wanted to address the problem head on before I take it to a higher people like HR or our boss.
Carlos: I never knew you felt that way because you never said anything. I’m sorry, is there anything I can do to make you not feel this way?
Kim: Yes you can start by telling everyone that we are just friends and you made jokes that were uncalled for and that it won’t happen again. I’m sorry if I have lead you on so if I do something that you may think is a sign, please let me know so we don’t run into this problem again.
Carlos: Thank you for talking to me first and not taking this to higher authority.
Kim: Yeah I just wanted to talk to you because I wanted to figure out a solution between us as adults. I hope we can still stay friends but with more respect towards each other.