“We Never Value It Unless We Lose It”
Appreciate what you have before it turns to what you in life. When an individual has something like love, money, things that makes us happy then we are all happy and complete. We feel complete because we have all the things that makes us happy but we never think of losing them. Yet, when we lose them then we feel upset and disturb because we humans always take things for granted. We never value it unless we lose it. In general, our parents never expect our thanks, but it won’t hurt to say it in a while, in your own way. You never know when it is too late. we have a lot of issues, that are created around us to keep us busy, like job, being in a relationship, money and success, our goals in life and what not. Still the only thing that matters a lot is our parents. Who had put us on earth, nurtured us, gave us education and our values and much more. often they would even sacrifice their own happiness. I think spending time to take care of them is not time wasted, not a shame but giving tem happiness and secure by their own children. We need to form our mind to realize what are the things that matters and to take the time to value it. Besides we do end up desiring for something that we could have while it lasted.
According to “#Dear Mum | Spoken Word” video described by narrator. He put out his whole life story from birth to death thankful to his moms’ love and felt sorrier for the wrongs he did. In the video he described the love given to him by his mother. Yet he felt guilty and regret for not realizing her love, sacrifices and worries for him. Throughout the video the narrator flashbacks his mother’s love and worries for him whenever he was not home “whenever we won’t home her heart will be torn I mean she could never ever sleep whenever we were gone she would stay up all night next to the phone although I would never call so she sends me text messages please I can’t sleep just let me know that you’re safe and secure”. The Deep love and worries as shown by the narrator’s mother was endlessness. When the narrator’s mother used to call him he did not value her missed calls, he did not even reply to her messages to make her sure that he safe and secure. The narrator is giving audiences the message of love realization. His mother was the women who cared about him when he was not home. I remembered when I used to go High School my parents would call me in the morning and after school. I have the feelings that not replying and not giving your parents the comfortability of secureness is like punishing them. Because they are suffering in their own child love I believe. Especially your mother’s love is the purest love. Mother could be ready to have many sacrifices in her life for her child in anyway. When we are sick we always whine to our mothers because we think she have the cure of our sickness. The narrator described his mother sacrifice “to the woman who was left sleepless from duck until dawn…with weakness upon weakness for nine moths long”. He is awarding his mother for the sacrifices and struggle she went through. For the hard time she had faced, nurtured him on this earth, to make his life worth, and give him pure love as honey. He shows audience what his mother’s scarified and he is all thankful for it. We live with the assumption that whenever we need something it will be there and that is our problem because the reality is you know that you had it but you just never thought you will lose it one day. But, the narrator feels the guilt inside him by making the symbol of “sword” lining through his heart in the clip. “I’m sorry for the pain that I caused for the nights you didn’t sleep and for all those missed calls for the fights we had I know how much you love her and miss her and I know what cuts too deep like a sword”. We never appreciate ones’ hard work until its put on us. As earlier the narrator showed the love that was presented to him, the scarifies his mother made for him, the worminess she had for him when he was away and all that. He did not understand that one day this caring, loving, and sac rising will be gone. And when it was gone he felt sorry for all misuse. He felt sorry for all the things he was not supposed to do.
The love between him and his mother was not recognized until she was gone from his life. And it was too late for all the love and regretful. I think it’s important for people to feel lucky with their surrounding people because we need to appreciate and realize what we have now. I think the narrator failed to appreciate the good things he once had and as a result he cautiously regrets what he did because he had the most valuable “mother” at all time. When I was born with my twin brother, my father was here in U.S. I didn’t care much about him because I did not have his love that was given me by my mother. After 9 years I met him. I did not recognize him yet I was eager for his love. Slowly I got used to him and he realized me that having both parents love is enough for a child. Nor mother nor father could fulfill child’s love but both together. And so I do appreciate both my parents love, caring and worries for me Alhamdulillah (Thank You God). I believe that happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they have.
ARTIST PIECE REFLECTION
The audience in my project in the ones’ who have parents love now. I want them to know that appreciate your parents love or it be once lasted. Do not let hates, misunderstanding or conflicts come between your love. Because for these who has lost their parents love, it is too late to say “sorry” to them, to express the love you have left for them. I want my audience to keep in mind that love is like life. Once we lose our love ones they are gone. They will never come back to give you the love or to give them love. Do not take anything not only love for granted. Because we assume that these things will be with us whenever we need it. And we do not think of losing it and this is why we do not focus to the love that is given to us. I think the audience might get the idea. For example, when I came to the united states in 2011, my father always used to tell us to stay back from the sidewalk, do not stay near to the train or do not lie and so may lessons that was given to me by my father because he did not want me to get spoiled I guess. Something with love, we starts to ignore it when we are loved too much and this is why, when we lose it we regret to ignore it. I think more connection and reality I had talked about in my piece. I learned a lot from this piece of work. I learned that loving back our parents is not sin. Even myself I really appreciate my parents love ad whenever I get little mad at them because of over protection then I feel guilty to have that hate feelings for them. I would like to learn that does tradition effects love between relations? I love poetry but I think before I have not looked at poetry this deep. I used to look at poetry in my language. Never looked up English poetry. Yet it was very interesting how poetry has deep meaning through every single word, how it has different ways to impact our daily lives. Since I did little of my work through comic kind of. It is not really comic but I designed it as comic. I’m interested in showing my work through comics. I would have explained my ideas infinite but I have to stop at somewhere. Since I did not compare two ideas I would like to work on this too. I would like to expand my ideas on comparison of 2 different works. Lastly, my peer review group was Gaby and Pragya.